Conversation Skills for Healthy Relationships in a Digital Age

Conversation Skills for Healthy Relationships in a Digital Age

Conversation Skills for Healthy Relationships in a Digital Age

These resources are recommended by ULEAD’s chief ideation trailblazer for ULEAD Ritch Hochstetler, who facilitated the workshop Conversation Skills for Healthy Relationships in a Digital Age in March 2019. For additional resources, contact the Center at 866-307-2381 or check out the Congregational Resource Guide at

Brown, Brene. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. New York, New York: Penguin Random House, 2015.          
Listening sets the stage for real conversations to happen. It is also vital that we open up to let other see us for who we really are. Brene Brown says that connection is why we are here…we are hardwired to connect with others. In this book, she challenges us to bring who we are as well as what we know into our conversations and connections with others.

Cummings, Michelle. “Comfort Zone Wheelies.” Training Wheels. Accessed March 12, 2019.
Michelle Cummings, founder of Training Wheels, is a veteran experiential facilitator. Comfort Zone Wheelies conversation facilitation cards provide excellent conversation starters on topics that stretch people into growth zones where listening skills are tested and people are challenged to be vulnerability and openness.

Headlee, Celeste. We Need To Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter. New York, New York: HarperCollins, 2017.
Celeste Headlee has spent more than a decade on National Public Radio, logging countless hours engaging in interviews and conversations with a variety of people on a wide range of topics. In this book she brings together the best of her experience with the latest research on what it takes to engage in authentic conversation with others.

Hochstetler, Ritch. “ULEAD Cards.” ULEAD. Accessed March 12, 2019.
These group facilitation cards are tools for engagement, social-emotional learning, growing communication skills, and more. With 10 different elements and more than 50 activities, they offer multiple ways to create space for interaction, connection, and deeper conversations.

Stavros, Jackie and Cheri Torres. Conversations Worth Having: Using Appreciative Inquiry to Fuel Productive and Meaningful Engagement. Oakland, California: Berrett-Koehler, 2018.
Conversations lie at the heart of how we interact. Stavros and Torres show a conversation has the power to either add value or suck the life out of relationships. Appreciative (value adding) conversations acknowledge others’ contributions and add new perspectives. In the end, this book highlights what is needed to grow conversations that increase our well-being and capacity to thrive.

From the workshop, here are the presenter's powerpoint presentation and handout.